Partners, for life?

What is it that humans look for in another to find the "Lifelong Partner"?

Attraction is definitely a key in finding the partner. It is not solely based on "Sexy" or "Hot" more likely the human instinct to reproduce. If someone is not attracted to the person they believe to be there soul mate, then they are less likely to want to procreate with the person, striking them from the opposites idea of a partner. Although some would call this shallow, in reality it isn't, it is a way to ensure that the race continues, healthy and strong. Most women who have large hips, and in general are not bone thin feel as though they are not good enough, this is not true. 61.6% percent of men would actually prefer a curvy woman with normal breasts, according to a study found in Cosmopolitan magazine. Men enjoy a woman with a real body than one of only skin and bones. A curvier body is more likely to support the growth of a fetus in the womb, and of course, average sized breasts are an eye catcher as they are sufficient size to produce enough milk.

Personality and values are two other important factors in choosing "The one". Two people who are hoping to make it in the world would need a personality that meshes well or there would be far too many fights to keep both man and woman happy. For example if a woman and man both a had a strong stubborn personality than there would be no give an take in the relationship, which, is most definitely required. People need to be able to come to a common understanding and agree on specific things, or as said before, neither would achieve happiness. Values, if two people were to have completely different values on life it would be hard to support all of them. If a man had the value the animals are nothing more than something to eat ( other than domesticated species) and the woman had a value that all living creatures deserve to life a full life, than she would feel as though her feelings didn't matter, especially with a stubborn personality!

Also, everyone has a preference on what they want in their opposite. Make sure that both partners are happy in a relationship, not just one. It is a give and take, like said before and both partners need their say in almost every matter. It is never okay to cling to one person, even if they don't make the other happy, because remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea!

- Janine.